Exhaustion. Discouragement. Frustration. Distraction.
All these things and more can lead to the loss of the “on fire” feelings we once had. In my opinion, it’s just simply not possible to keep up a high intensity level for our passions, our daily pursuits, or even for our relationships. If your fire had faded somewhat, don’t worry. . . you’re not alone.
Failure is Popular
The most popular page on this site is currently the post I wrote about considering closing my blog. At first I wasn’t sure if I should be flattered by that or not. I couldn’t figure out why it so quickly became more popular than all my other posts and even beat out the page for my book that was previously the most visited page on my site.
In the end, I decided that the reason that post is getting so much traffic is because so many other people have been exactly in the same spot I was. Trying to make the tough decision on whether to give up something you previously felt so passionately about is a pretty common thing.
We’ve all heard statistics of how faded passions lead to unhappy endings:
- Only 21% of bloggers continue blogging for their entire first year.
- 40 – 50% of marriages end in divorce in America.
- Approximately 40,000 U.S. businesses close their doors or file for bankruptcy each month.
It Take More Than Passion to Keep the Fire Going
Sometimes it takes some stubborn hard will to survive. We can’t always rely on our feelings. Feeling change and feelings fade. I never feel like decluttering, admitting when I’m wrong, or giving up sleep to work on a project. However, if it’s necessary then that’s what I choose to do. The same stubbornness that can drive me crazy in my kids is exactly the same stubbornness that it takes to bust through challenges, bad moods, and tough times.
Sometimes it takes jumping in with both feet. The easy gentle approach is sometimes wise and yet sometimes it keeps us from committing to get the job done. Don’t just go through a junk drawer, clean out your whole kitchen! Don’t just think about what you want to be someday, do something about it today! Redo your resume, go write a chapter for your book, or go strap on your running shoes and get moving!
Sometimes it take admitting you were wrong. There will be times when you must change your course and evaluate your decisions. That should never be seen as failure . . . that is true growth. Learning from our mistakes and experiences is how we build wisdom. We can take that new knowledge and go after our goals with a whole new intensity level.
Sometimes it just takes time. I am as impatient as the next person. I want to see results fast. I want those numbers on the scale to go down quicker and I’d love to see my websites grow faster. But sometimes it just takes time and patience. Keep reminding yourself that baby steps are still progress in the right direction. One change affects the other and the results trickle down into other areas of our lives.
So don’t worry if your fire has faded a little. If it’s something that’s truly important to you, then give it some time and keep up the hard work. It won’t always be fun and yes, sometimes failure is inevitable. In the end, only you can decide how to proceed.
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Article originally published on 05/05/2011